In this Chapter Steve explains that men are not really talkers and that the “We need to Talk” line puts men on the defense. Men are focused on fixing things. If there is a problem, real or otherwise, men communicate with the focus on trying to fix what ever is wrong. Steve says if women opened with something other than the “We need to Talk” line men might be able to relax and put away our “fix it tools.
In Chapter three Steve says that the three things that a man needs are:
Support, Loyalty, and the Cookie.
According to Steve, men have to feel like his woman got his back – he’s the king. He needs his woman to tell him how much she appreciates what he does. For men love is loyalty. He needs to know that no matter what he needs you to stand by his side. And last but not least men need sex. Steve argues that if these three things are supplied, you will have a man on your hand who will do what every you want.
In this chapter Steve agrues that a woman’s love is different from a man’s love. In a word a woman’s love is kind, passionate, patient and nuturing, generous, sweet and unconditional. Mr. Harvey goes on to say that if a woman is in love she will give her best no matter how many times her man slams the door on her.
Steve argues that a man’s love is different – it’s more simple, direct, and harder to come by. If a man loves you he gives you a title – my woman, my girl, my lady. Giving a woman a title means he is claiming you as his. Another significant measure of a man’s love is his willingness to be a provider. To bring home the bacon. He makes sure that you and the kids have what you need. He says that is the primary role of a man. This is the very core of manhood. Steve goes on to say too many men shrink from this responsibility. Finally he says that when a man can’t provide economically he does other things- bring food from his frig, have his buddies help with car problems, but he makes every effort to provide.
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The “Book Club with Substance” held it’s first spirited discussion on Steve Harvey’s book “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” October 25. Time ran out discussing perspectives on the author’s claim that men are simple and are driven by who he is (his title), how he gets that title (what he does), and the reward he gets for that title (how much he makes). Mr. Harvey argues that these three categories make up the basic DNA of manhood and until he has accomplished these goals he will not be able to focus on a relationship. Join us the 4th Sunday, November 22nd, 2:30pm at the KI EcoCenter for our next person to person conversation and/or post your perspectives online anytime.
What are your views on Mr. Harvey’s manhood definition?
Do you agree or disagree with Mr. Harvey?
In Steve Harvey’s introduction he states that men are really very simple and that his book is a playbook of sorts. He says this book is a tool –useful for anticipating a man’s game plan. Harvey claims that the playbook women are using now is outdated, and the plays don’t work. Harvey concludes in the introduction, that no matter how good you are to a man, no matter how good you are for him, until you understand his makeup, what drives him, what motivates him, and how he loves, you will be vulnerable to his deception and the games men play.
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Welcome to the official launch of “Book Club with Substance ….. developing a historical and current perspective”. Our first selection is Steve Harvey’s “Act Like A Woman, Think Like A Man”. Our first meeting is Sunday October 25, 2:30pm, @ the KI EcoCenter 159 West 28th. Look for our first post real soon.
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